Quick post about dance etiquette.
A fellow dancer, Bernadette, recently posted about an elbowing incident. She had been watching a guy all night long, finally asked him to dance - convincing the guy to abandon his cookie along the way- and then elbowed him on the mouth.
This is the comment I left on her blog:
“I’ve received my share of elbows in the chest/chin/mouth over the years. And my glasses have flown to the ground a few times as well.
However, when something like this happens, the hitter usually feels worse than the person who got hit.
So when I do get hit, I make it a point to keep on dancing with the person if I can.
If I can’t right away (ex: the case where I get hit on the nose and there’s a chance of nosebleed) I make sure I’m okay and then I ask her to dance again.”
It just so happens that last month I received an elbow on the nose during Swing and the City, and honestly, I was more concerned about making the girl feel better than tending to my nose. It was obvious that she felt embarassed. I just didn’t want it to prevent her from enjoying the rest of the evening.
I did feel the nose bleed coming, so I found something cold (towel and cold water), made sure I was okay, and then went to ask her to dance again.
Whoever says chivalry is dead is wrong. And I don’t mean that in a macho kind of way. Lindy Hop, and by extension social dancing, is a great way to tap into your positive energy and to share it with others.
So be kind and generous on the dance floor. We’re all here to have fun.